I didn’t write the note at the bottom, but I wish I did. A friend sent it to me, and others, as an email.
Because it’s cold today, and I’m feeling a little melancholy, the message made me think about life. It’s passing and it’s future. Not so much the past as the present. And, the next few years.
April 1st is the 1st anniversary of the death of my brother-in-law, Richard Remsberg. He was living in Rio de Janeiro when he had a heart attack. He was 56.
In May, it will be 8 years since Ray Pelletier Sr. died, from complications following hernia surgery. He was 57.
More recently, my nephew, James Sylvester died from an infection at the age of 32.
My sister was paralyzed in an automobile accident 10 years ago. She donated blood at a hospital. Passed out on the way home. Woke up as a quadriplegic. She was 50 at the time.
One road I drive nearly every day, takes me between two cemeteries. One rather upscale. One more of the common people. I wonder about the people in the corners. Who is buried in the extreme ends of the field?
Then, it’s back to traffic and the store I’m heading to.
I don’t know if anyone will read this, but if you do, appreciate the words and take them to heart.
The weather will improve. Actually, it’s a beautiful March day with the sun shining and a lovely blue sky. It’s just a little cold. And that will end in a few days.
Me, I’m about to turn 65. And, I, like the author of the following passage, wonder where the years went. I regret not staying in touch with friends. I suppose there are other regrets, but life is what it is. I made the choices that put me were I am. I will make the choices that will take me to the next stage of reflection. Just as you will.
AND THEN IT IS WINTER
I FIRST STARTED READING THIS EMAIL & WAS READING FAST UNTIL I REACHED THE THIRD SENTENCE. I STOPPED AND STARTED OVER READING SLOWER AND THINKING ABOUT EVERY WORD. THIS EMAIL IS VERY THOUGHT PROVOKING. MAKES YOU STOP AND THINK. READ SLOWLY!
You know. . . time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years. It seems just yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on my new life with my mate. Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went. I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams.
But, here it is… the winter of my life and it catches me by surprise…How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go? I remember well seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that winter was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like.
But, here it is…my friends are retired and getting grey…they move slower and I see an older person now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me… but, I see the great change…Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant…but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we’d be. Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore… it’s mandatory! Cause if I don’t on my own free will… I just fall asleep where I sit!
And so…now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done but never did!! But, at least I know, that though the winter has come, and I’m not sure how long it will last…this I know, that when it’s over on this earth…its over. A new adventure will begin!
Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn’t done…things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I’m happy to have done. It’s all in a lifetime.
So, if you’re not in your winter yet…let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly! Don ‘t put things off too long!! Life goes by quickly. So, do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether this is your winter or not! You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life…so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember…and hope that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past!!
“Life” is a gift to you. The way you live your life is your gift to those who come after. Make it a fantastic one.
LIVE IT WELL! ENJOY TODAY! DO SOMETHING FUN! BE HAPPY! HAVE A GREAT DAY!
Remember “It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.”
LIVE HAPPY IN 2013!
LASTLY, CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING:
TODAY IS THE OLDEST YOU’VE EVER BEEN, YET THE YOUNGEST YOU’LL EVER BE SO – ENJOY THIS DAY WHILE IT LASTS.
~Your kids are becoming you……but your grandchildren are perfect!
~Going out is good.. Coming home is better!
~You forget names…. But it’s OK because other people forgot they even knew you!!!
~You realize you’re never going to be really good at anything…. especially golf.
~The things you used to care to do, you no longer care to do, but you really do care that you don’t care to do them anymore.
~You sleep better on a lounge chair with the TV blaring than in bed. It’s called “pre-sleep.”
~You miss the days when everything worked with just an “ON” and “OFF” switch..
~You tend to use more 4 letter words … “what?”…”when?”… ???
~Now that you can afford expensive jewelry, it’s not safe to wear it anywhere.
~You notice everything they sell in stores is “sleeveless”?!!!
~What used to be freckles are now liver spots.
~You have 3 sizes of clothes in your closet…. 2 of which you will never wear.
~But Old is good in some things: Old Songs, Old movies, and best of all, OLD FRIENDS!!
Stay well, “OLD FRIEND!”
It’s Not What You Gather, But What You Scatter That Tells What Kind Of Life You Have Lived.
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Beirut is Lebanon’s seat of government and plays a central role in the Lebanese economy, with many banks and corporations based in its Central District, Hamra Street, Rue Verdun and Ashrafieh. The city is the focal point of the region’s cultural life, renowned for its press, theatres, cultural activities and nightlife. After the destructive Lebanese Civil War, Beirut underwent major reconstruction,and the redesigned historic city centre, marina, pubs and nightlife districts have once again made it a tourist attraction.
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